As you may or may not know I don't simply have friends. Or at least not gay ones. I possess or rule and organize several harems. My central and original harem is my Chicago harem aka husbands and mistresses it has about 27 members. My my third or fourth but second in command QUIUC harem I refer to as my kingdom I would estimate about 30 in that one. My second harem and by far smallest is east coast with 10. Third or fourth and least favorite is the west coast harem with 20. Newest is the fifth and probably my favorite harem Queer International with about 25. There is a small lesbian posse but they do not count as members of the group must identify as queer males. There are a couple exceptions but that is my fault for mis-gendering them and indoctrinating them before I ask them how they identified. Once your in you can't be kicked out for no longer identifying as male or queer. I get mixed feelings to say the least from people outside the harems about how people in them are treated. Most are negative and the rest are undecided and confused. People feel that it is wrong for me to refuse to call people by their names and only call them what I have named them. The names can be whatever I want, some sound degrading. I do call them by whatever I have named them on here, on my phone, and around my friends but never out in public. They also think I am ruthless in my way of speaking to them and that I must abuse them because they are some what intimidated and fear full of punishment. It is not uncommon to see my bark order at my friends and not explain or say please. I normally do say thank you and show my appreciation of my friends often. If I don't seem to do extra for them it is because they require so much already. All of them are spoiled. In the group you do what I say, when I say it, how I said to do it and you don't question. You may ask why later but in the moment you do not. No one gets left behind or forgotten. If it is your problem then it is also my problem. You can always come to me and I will come for you. Loyalty, honestly, and trust above all else. That is it. That is all I expect from them. I will give them anything with in my power to give and help them acquire what is not. But some people still think I am evil and dehumanizing that I own and control these people. During market days, which I attended with some of my kingdom and some of my mistress, we talked about how they feel being inside the group, over gelato of course. The Fireman ,one of the last to be join the mistress so I have only know him for about 2 yrs, brought it up. *side note* the the husbands and mistresses have a cap at 27 there will never be anymore. My kingdom I will cap at the end of next year because I no longer attend that school. All the other groups can continue to grow ** We were just sitting and talking when all of a sudden he said " every time I am with you, I feel so happy, loved, and alive. I am so glad to be one of your gays, it is the most validating feeling ever." Some other guys I was with agreed. The bouncer, from the kingdom, added " I don't know how she deals with you all up here but when she is with us, she takes care of us, listens, treats us to things every once and a while, and keeps us out of trouble." The Artist implied that up here I run a gay mafia and that the kingdom is just a small part of it, the prostitution ring. We laughed and I said when ever a harem meets members from another harem they always think the other harem is more attractive than their own. "I love bad ******* its a ******* problem." It got me thinking who is right do I really dehumanize my friends or do I offer them something few people can understand or will ever experience. They respond to what I have named them and only two actually dislike their names. Keelan and Keith (those are their nicknames and their names, just cuz I can). Everyone else either feels pride in their name like President Who, Emperor Zo, Twink 1, Bitch, Prostitute 1 (is what it translates to in English), and better than a finger bang, BFB for short. Or gives me friendly shit about their name such as the pool boy, AA ( cusin actually gives me shit about it, not AA himself), Papa Gayleb, Kevi, and Tiny Asian Freshman, Taf for short ( cuz his nicknamee is longer than his real name). All of the harems call me by my name except for the Kingdom, they call me Queen. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have favorites, but no one is treated worse than another for not being the favorite. I normally spend the most time with them. So pool boy, Taf, Gaysha, Jer bear, the artist, Julius, Australian Boska, ect. You will be touched. I don't think there is a person in my harem who I haven't felt up... I normally don't do it to be sexual or anything like that. I do invade their personal space. They don't invade mine. But nobody seems to mine that either. No, I don't feel entitled to their body or their space but more a comfortable and familiarity that allows me to invade it and feel more connected, bonding, with my friend. It would be one thing if they didn't like it but they all seem indifferent to it. "So do what you want, what you want to my body do. Do what you want don't stop let's party." We feel safe when we are together. Free of violence. Not necessarily free of judgement, but no fear of rejection because we are free from unacceptance. we know that all people in this space are kind of like us, and want the same things, are after the same things. and normally are queer men. We can be who we are and be accepted no matter what. You might be questioned but not in a scrutininess way, more an investigation to lead to better understanding of the person. We want to understand, exchange, and love. Everyone in the harem may not know those are the fundamental principals but it shows on every occasion that we are together. It is one of the only times I know of were my friends don't have to have their guards up. Even when there is someone new, they trust that because we all know the type of space this is and how rare it is, that no one would want to poison it. So we can trust the new comer. It also goes with do what I say, when I say it, and trust. If I said they are cool then they are. Now not everyone in the harem gets along. Things don't always work out and people are punished accordingly for a variety of things but mostly not listening. Yes, I punish them because things don't work with out order and this is the only time where it creates this power dynamic of me over them. Certain situations call for a leader when we are together and such a situation arises I am that leader. When someone doesn't listen depending on what its about its not just a slap on the wrist. Everybody is different and nobody learns the same so just because one person get isolated for a month doesn't mean that I am going to do the same thing to another person when they commit the same offense. When people listen and believe me things go their way, when they don't then they suffer in a way tailor made for them. There was going to be a fight because some thug disrespected on of my friends and he wasn't going to drop it. This has happened twice with two different outcomes. In one the LG was disrespected I told him to wait for my signal and then he could have his revenge with in reason. Lg waited I told him to go play pool he didn't understand but did it. I brought the guy who disrespected my friend in a corner, I was talking to him, trying to work everything out. Next thing the guy knows his glass is being shattered and a pool stick is ramming him in the stomach. He was mad and said that LG did it on purpose, and demanded an apology. I said where was your apology when you disrespected him? Physical disrespect is no different than verbal and we walked out happy and laughing. Pool boy got into a similar situation I told him to wait until we left the bar. Don't start a fight in here but he didn't listen and we barely got out before the cops came. Nobody helped him in his fight and he was beaten up enough. I tended to his injuries making sure he knew he was wrong the entire time. He was mad " why didn't you help me?" "because what if we would have and then didn't get out before the cops came? All of us would be in jail and who would help you then?" "You should have helped me" " you should have listened" *poors rubbing alcohol on wound* People learn very quickly not to cross me and that I do listen if you have concerns. I do go out of my way to keep them out of trouble in the first place though. Pool Boy for example hates almost everyone, so he is never invited to large functions. Pedro likes to sleep with my friends which is not allowed unless I say. ( it creates drama in the harem which I desperately try to avoid) So normally Pedro is only invited to things with my friends who have boyfriends. Some of my friends aren't out so I sneak them out and they can only be around people who can keep a secret. But no matter what, the end result is the same, we love. I love them, and I would give them my all in less than a heart beat. I wouldn't even have to think. And some of them understand and love me back. I have had two friends in the pass day say that they would give their life for me. I told them I wouldn't want it or ever ask that of them, that I would rather them live it to the fullness doing what ever brings them the greatest amount of joy, that if they did that instead of sacrificing themselves for me that the gesture would mean more than a lifetime ever could. Moments spent with them I could never regret, and I cherish those pictures, videos, momentos and memories. If all I do, if all they do, if all we do for the harems are cheapend by how I talk about it and those who are part of it and that makes me an evil dictator then so be it. I will not stop what I am doing because the English language fails me. I would ask those who harshly judge what they see and hear to try to feel what they do. Feel what A Fox named Owl does. Feel how Fo' Grad Student felt before he was part of the kingdom. Ask French Matt how he feels to be part of it. Understand how even though I hadn't seen him in years Stripper still felt loved and that I was there for him. Try to not give in to the overwhelming sense that you feel when Fireman say this has changed his life. Judge me as harshly as you want once you have felt the things they have.
Stay Fierce
J-Skittles
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