12/18/21

Skittles: desire mapping a partner part two

My therapist wants me to list my non-negotiable for what I need in a partner. In no particular order.
  1. I like their voice
  2. Has a regular hygiene routine and smells nice
  3. Person of color
  4. Interesting
  5. Trustworthy
  6. Loyal
  7. Smart
  8. Believes in science
  9. Makes me feel safe
  10. Consistent
  11. Transparent
  12. Is free from human dependants
  13. Can make a follow a plan
  14. Patient
  15. Honest
  16. Responsible
  17. Reasonable
  18. Understanding
  19. Empathic
  20. Considerate
  21. Cuddly 
  22. Is comfortable to cuddle
  23. Down with the movement
  24. More than political liberal
  25. Respectful of others' boundaries 
  26. Fixes instead of fighting
  27. Works on improving themselves
  28. Has long term stability in their life
  29. Has at least one thing that they are passionate about and know a lot about that thing
  30. Organized
  31. Uses Google services like calendar and stuff
  32. Has goals 
  33. Has hobbies
  34. Nice
  35. Reciprocates 
  36. Good communication skills 
  37. I find them sexually attractive
  38. Mouth tastes good (not like cigarettes)
  39. Likes a variety of music
  40. Was or is currently an activist
  41. Only has allergy restrictions for their food diet
  42. Calming
  43. Doesn't mind doing the dishes
  44. Emotional intelligence 
  45. Open to trying new things
  46. Emotionally intelligent with the ability to be vulnerable 
  47. Our long term life goals are compatible.