Skit: KU reconnaissance

Before we start this post I must catch you up on my life and reveal a more inmate truth. Since I broke up with my last serious girl friend (I might have called her Noche I don't remember) I have more or less abstained from sex. ( more being I say I haven't had sex since April 2012 less being there was like one or two slip ups that I almost regret) I like being abstinent for the most part. The only thing is sexual things now make me uncomfortable. The thought of kissing someone is dam near terrifying.  So I usually shy away from anything and all things SEX. I bet your wondering but you went to that sex party last week. Well it wasn't really a sex party. It was a BDSM party for queer people of color. I don't know if I mentioned this but I run a kink organization. So I, the sexual introvert, went to a BDSM party and had a blast. I made a flogger and whip. I watch a lot of interesting scenes. I ate a lot of snacks and watched some porn in the porn room. And I learned a lot. BDSM is all about consent and communication.  There was so much talking and positive body affirmation. Despite being half naked and way out of my comfort zone I was oddly at ease. The space was made to be inviting and everyone was nice. There was a demo by a professional dominatrix that showed you how to properly use all types of equipment. Overall a really great night. Now why was I there? Other than to try something new like I said a run a kink organization. My bored is made up of 2 dominate people, one person who switches, and a submissive person.  Then there is me the head of this bored and not kinky at all. Now in my org. I mostly dress up sexy and do all the administrative work. I get to wear negligee and thong to my meetings :).  But I wanted to know how to grow it. I want to do more than workshops and conferences. I want to make a space for queer people that is safe for minorities and all gender identities. I want to have meet up and play party's. But like I said I'm not kinky so I have no idea how to do any of this. So I go events I talk to people and I learn. I find they best way to learn something is to do it. I believe in hands on learning so I went to that party to make connections and do some undercover work... under the covers.